If you’re struggling with a relationship and want to change it …. welcome.
If you’re having a hard time communicating effectively …welcome.
If boundaries are an issue, if saying ‘no’ is hard for you, if your deeply engrained habit of ‘being nice’ is getting in the way of being authentic ….welcome!
You are not alone.
If you’re anything like me, a woman in her 50s, you’ve had a lifetime of ‘good girl’ conditioning, which can make speaking up for yourself, staying grounded during conflict, and capable of speaking your authentic truth (without doing the dance of downplaying it for too long, then finally screaming it at the other person in angry frustration) difficult.
In my two decades of working with (mostly) women, and having to face my own addiction to “being nice” to avoid conflicts, I’ve learned a few things about why we fight and how to do it well. …or at least how to use conflict for both personal growth and healing, as well as deepening connections with the people we care most about, while getting more of what we really want.
If this is something you’d like to learn to do better, let’s talk.
In a 30 minute conversation we can figure out what type of conflict you’re involved in (there are three). This will help you decide what resources or process will most effectively resolve the challenge, and get you moving in that direction. Email me to schedule a time. My email is jolina @ jolinakaren.com
I look forward to meeting you!
Sincerely,
Jolina
P.S. If you’d like to read more about my background and why I am able to help clients address their relationship challenges in the way that I do, you can read some of my bio here, my philosophy on healing here and a published piece on the psycho-spiritual roots of disease here. Please note, much of my earlier work was focused on helping clients address the psycho-spiritual roots of physical ailments. What I found in my years as a somatic therapist was that under most physical ailments was a relationship issue, and under every relationship issue a self-love issue. I now choose to focus on relationship challenges because that’s what most of my clients ask for help with.