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My Failures, My Silence

“All my failures can be traced to my silence.” These words, in a post by Danielle LaPorte, triggered a montage of silence-induced-failure memories. My first marriage: how many times had I simply shut up while he ranted? The job I was fired from: how many nights had I secretly cried because I felt overwhelmed but… Read More My Failures, My Silence

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Amazing Grace

“Through many dangers, toils and snares
I have already come
Tis grace that brought me safe thus far
And Grace will lead me home” – Amazing Grace
Growing up in Africa, where conflict and strife between people were impossible to avoid, I wondered: what will it take for us to see our shared humanity, break down the barriers between… Read More Amazing Grace

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Why conflict is scary

What makes conflict scary is the mistaken belief that the other person – that thing out there – is the source of your anger.
Have you ever been blamed for making someone angry? Have you been attacked, criticized, tongue-lashed or dumped …for ‘making’ someone feel something they didn’t like? Were you really responsible for their feelings?… Read More Why conflict is scary

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Conflict’s Gift

When my first husband and I ran into trouble in our marriage we sought out a counselor. He told us the hardest people he ever worked with were the ones who said: ‘my parents never fought.’ Um, well, that would be me. My parents never fought … at least ‘not in front of the kids’.… Read More Conflict’s Gift

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If I had a daughter

If I had a daughter I’d want her to know
she is valuable
she is good
she is likeable
she deserves to be happy
she can have what she wants.
I’d want her to believe
that there are ways to get what she desires,
to have experiences that uplift her.
Her happiness matters to me.
It makes me happy.
If I had a daughter I’d want… Read More If I had a daughter

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Reflective anger?

In the end, all anger at others is anger at ourselves. The person we blame for our pain is never the cause of it. It’s our own unresolved anger at ourselves that makes us uncomfortable in the presence of the person we’re blaming. Anger is the indicator of our own deep, inner pain that arises… Read More Reflective anger?

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Richard Branson’s #1 Tip for Success: Be great with people!

One of the most successful entrepreneurs and iconic philanthropists, Sir Richard Branson, attributes his personal and business success to 4 key things: Staying healthy; being good with people; being certain that his businesses and humanitarian efforts add real value to people’s lives; and having fun!
Of these 4 things he says his # 1 lesson regarding… Read More Richard Branson’s #1 Tip for Success: Be great with people!

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Divorce’s gift

I have just been listening to a marketing webinar in which the audience was instructed to do 3 things:
1-    think of the most difficult challenges they’ve gone through,
2-    describe the greatest lessons learned through those struggles,
3-    and identify who would most love to hear what you know
These immediately popped into my head: divorce, my mother’s… Read More Divorce’s gift

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The Greatest Pains

The greatest pains we ever feel never have anything to do with anyone other than ourselves.
The greatest pains you ever feel are never caused by anyone other than yourself.
You are the cause and effect of every one of your experiences.
(I’m now taking a deep breath and waiting for your discomfort to surface ….)
I expect a… Read More The Greatest Pains

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The Four Mess-cateers

Do you know the four bed-fellows that can keep you stuck, drain your energy, and shrink your life to just what is safe, acceptable and a good deal less than exhilerating?
If you think fear is one of them, you’re close but don’t light that cigar. Fear is related to The Four. It arises from them.… Read More The Four Mess-cateers

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Inauthentic authenticity

Authenticity: it’s the new buzz word: authentic marketing, authentic selling, authentic relationships, authentic living etc etc What does it really mean to be authentic?
Popular belief: being authentic means expressing your real feelings, being up front about what you’re doing and what you want, and going for the things that feel important to you.
Feeling inauthentic arises… Read More Inauthentic authenticity

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Freedom, entrepreneurialism and barely dressed models…

What do freedom, entrepreneurialism and barely dressed models have in common?They’ve all been on my mind a lot lately. You?
Here’s my reason: I’m currently producing a kick-ass, mind-stretching, money magnetizing event for sassy  women who want to make a difference in the world. The see-saw of excitement and anxiety that I’m… Read More Freedom, entrepreneurialism and barely dressed models…