You loving you matters so much more than you might realize!
When you hear of women doing amazing things to help others in unfathomably difficult situations, do you question yourself?
Do you wonder if you’re doing anything that is admirable or significant?
Do you ask if you’re doing enough to make a difference?
Earlier this week I attended a… Read More The BIG difference you make
You loving you matters so much more than you might realize!
Authentically self-loving integrated women share a particular worldview that drives 5 attributes that make them unique, powerful and so very important, especially at this time. In this recording I expand on those attributes and the understandings that deepen them. (Please click the image) Enjoy!
If’d you like more of these conversations please put your name on… Read More 5 Attributes of Integrated Women
“All my failures can be traced to my silence.” These words, in a post by Danielle LaPorte, triggered a montage of silence-induced-failure memories. My first marriage: how many times had I simply shut up while he ranted? The job I was fired from: how many nights had I secretly cried because I felt overwhelmed but… Read More My Failures, My Silence
In this one hour webinar (recorded live) you will hear about the 5 stages of the Shero’s Journey, how pop psychology is failing women and what we need instead.
What stage are you in? I’d love to hear. Please comment below. If you’d like more information like this, or opportunities to participate in these conversations, please… Read More 5 Stages of the Shero’s Journey
Anger is not the problem.
One’s beliefs about the cause of anger are the problem.
Ignorant believes: YOU are making me angry.
YOU are the problem.
Then she attacks.
YOU need to change, go away or die!
Better Educated knows:
I am the cause of my anger.
She asks: What is this saying about me, my fears and fantasies, my expectations of myself… Read More Anger is not the problem
In my interactions with, and studies of, successful people I have consistently heard them express gratitude to those people – parents, teachers, mentors – who have seen them bigger than they have been able to see themselves.
We all need at least one person who can see something in us that we can’t quite see in… Read More Love Liberates Us
My wish for you…….
how would it feel
to be completely authentic
to be true to yourself
to be a force for change
to say no when you mean no
to feel your feelings and not shut them down
to relax in your own skin
to buy what you’d love to buy for yourself
to create an environment that feels good to you
to… Read More Freedom
An African teaching says we all have two minds: the Mother Mind and the Warrior Mind. The Warrior Mind thinks linearly. The Mother minds thinks this side, then that side, upwards and downwards. In other words, the Mother Mind thinks holistically.
Many of us women are Mother Mind dominant. This means we see things from multiple… Read More Reining in the Mother Mind
It occurs to me that I have never written you a father/son type letter and maybe I should. I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s the imminent prospect of painting the high facia boards and falling off the roof… Or maybe it’s an urge to write down my own philosophy of life since we Walmsleys… Read More Dad’s letter to my brother
“Through many dangers, toils and snares
I have already come
Tis grace that brought me safe thus far
And Grace will lead me home” – Amazing Grace
Growing up in Africa, where conflict and strife between people were impossible to avoid, I wondered: what will it take for us to see our shared humanity, break down the barriers between… Read More Amazing Grace
What makes conflict scary is the mistaken belief that the other person – that thing out there – is the source of your anger.
Have you ever been blamed for making someone angry? Have you been attacked, criticized, tongue-lashed or dumped …for ‘making’ someone feel something they didn’t like? Were you really responsible for their feelings?… Read More Why conflict is scary
When my first husband and I ran into trouble in our marriage we sought out a counselor. He told us the hardest people he ever worked with were the ones who said: ‘my parents never fought.’ Um, well, that would be me. My parents never fought … at least ‘not in front of the kids’.… Read More Conflict’s Gift
The Hidden Function in Dysfunction
We tend to view illnesses as dysfunctions that cause us pain and should, therefore, be gotten rid of as quickly as possible. But what if their real function is not to cause pain but to help us avoid pain? What if they are strategies for bypassing or managing deeper pains than… Read More On Healing: Functional Dysfunctions?
If I had a daughter I’d want her to know
she is valuable
she is good
she is likeable
she deserves to be happy
she can have what she wants.
I’d want her to believe
that there are ways to get what she desires,
to have experiences that uplift her.
Her happiness matters to me.
It makes me happy.
If I had a daughter I’d want… Read More If I had a daughter
Bruce Muzik’s Ted Talk got to me. What’s your deepest, darkest fear…. the thing you desperately don’t want anyone to discover? Mine, if I’m honest, is this: I’m terribly, secretly, afraid that I’ll be discovered to be useless. I’m afraid that it’ll be found out that everything I hold dear, that I strive to share… Read More The rightness of being wrong
When you experience a health issue, a challenging relationship, or a traumatic event, it is natural to ask “Why is this happening?” This can be a dangerous question.
There are two ways to ask the ‘why’ question. One is to ask: “why is this happening to me?” The other is: “why is this happening for me?”
The… Read More When ‘why?’ is a dangerous question
“Trying hard not to feel broken by men in power.” Words of a friend – a beautiful, powerful, accomplished friend. Words that cut close to home. Words that speak to a deep, shared human story: the struggle to feel valued. Trying hard not to feel broken by men in power….
But, where exactly are these ‘men… Read More broken by men in power?
We drove the road. We hiked the trial. We knelt beneath the tree where you sat before slipping away. What courage it must have taken for you to make your exit. I honor you for that.
When I first heard the news I was shocked, then sad, then glad and mad. But you, my friend, were… Read More On suicide and sadness – a perspective
In the end, all anger at others is anger at ourselves. The person we blame for our pain is never the cause of it. It’s our own unresolved anger at ourselves that makes us uncomfortable in the presence of the person we’re blaming. Anger is the indicator of our own deep, inner pain that arises… Read More Reflective anger?
One of the most successful entrepreneurs and iconic philanthropists, Sir Richard Branson, attributes his personal and business success to 4 key things: Staying healthy; being good with people; being certain that his businesses and humanitarian efforts add real value to people’s lives; and having fun!
Of these 4 things he says his # 1 lesson regarding… Read More Richard Branson’s #1 Tip for Success: Be great with people!
I grabbed her hair and yanked it hard. She reeled out of her seat and lunged for me. Bitch slaps and karate blocks. A hefty shove and victorious shrug. Mine. Elegant, of course. The stunned audience applauds ….
Such was my fantasy last night at a Keb Mo concert at the hoity toity Villar Center, Beaver… Read More Bitch slap. Miserable Cows.
I have just been listening to a marketing webinar in which the audience was instructed to do 3 things:
1- think of the most difficult challenges they’ve gone through,
2- describe the greatest lessons learned through those struggles,
3- and identify who would most love to hear what you know
These immediately popped into my head: divorce, my mother’s… Read More Divorce’s gift
The greatest pains we ever feel never have anything to do with anyone other than ourselves.
The greatest pains you ever feel are never caused by anyone other than yourself.
You are the cause and effect of every one of your experiences.
(I’m now taking a deep breath and waiting for your discomfort to surface ….)
I expect a… Read More The Greatest Pains