Below is a link to the audio recording of the masterclass I hosted on How To Use Your Mind To Heal Your Body. In it we cover: Where Mental-Emotional work fits in a holistic model; the 3 Psycho-Spiritual Roots of Disease; and the 5 Steps to Activating GRACE. At the end of the presentation I… Read More Activate G.R.A.C.E Masterclass
“When we change the way we feel about things, the things we have feelings about change.” Jolina Karen The most powerfully transformative feeling we can activate is Grace …..that profound feeling of unconditional love and gratitude for what is, exactly as it is, with no desire to change it. I have found that the most… Read More Activate G.R.A.C.E. – A Program For People Committed To Healing
My clients are smart professional men and women who want to connect better with someone … a spouse, an employee, a client, a child. Relationships are high value to them. They manage. They lead. They teach. They negotiate. They know that up-leveling their communication skills will improve their interactions. I help them do that. That… Read More Hello there!
Covid viral pneumonia nearly killed me ……and it freed me! I looked death in the eye and it changed me! I’ve never been more terrified …. nor liberated! I’m soooo deeply grateful. I made this video within days to share insights. I just had to. Please play it. If something jumps up in you there’s… Read More Breathe in Life!
When my first husband and I ran into trouble in our marriage we sought out a counselor. He told us the hardest people he ever worked with were the ones who said: ‘my parents never fought.’ Um, well, that would be me. My parents never fought … at least ‘not in front of the kids’.… Read More Conflict’s Gift
How much time and energy have you wasted on trying to help someone, only to have them keep doing whatever they’ve always done? How much of yourself have you poured into trying to get someone to see things from your perspective, only to have them remain blind to what seems obvious to you? How much… Read More Relationship’s biggest lie
“We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” e e cummings We do not become fully… Read More Why Listening Matters So Much
A catalytic conversation is one that initiates change in one person without draining, or taking away from, the other. They are characterized by great listening and genuine curiosity. They make the speakers feel seen and heard, understood and appreciated. They lead to transformative moments of authentic connection. They change people…..emotionally and neurologically. They bring out… Read More What is a Catalytic Conversation?
As we go into cold and flu season covid cases are expected to rise as well, so I thought I’d share some healthcare protocols that a number of the doctors I follow are using to keep themselves healthy. I am, of course, not a doctor and not prescribing anything. I just enjoy sharing info that… Read More How doctors are staying healthy
I am a healer, first and foremost, and have been fascinated by the body-mind connection since I was a kid. What I’ve learned in my 30ish years of working in the holistic healing space is this: behind every physical ailment is a relationship challenge; and behind every relationship challenge is a disconnection in the relationship… Read More On Healing
To address illness and optimize health we must address our macro-, micro- and meta-physiology. Our macro-physiology needs movement, exercise, stretching, manipulation and, sometimes, surgery. Our micro-physiology is all about nutrition, gut health, hormone balance, enzymes and, sometimes, medication. If these have been addressed and illness persists, we must examine our meta-physiology….the beyond-physical influences in our… Read More Stress and the Psycho-Spiritual Roots of Disease
I’ve been struggling with a situation for a while, trying to get straight answers from two different people who were not working the same timeline that I was. There was a lot of my time, money and effort on the line. They were the decision makers….and I didn’t trust that they had my back. I was… Read More Could you be my Third Side?
I’ve been listening to a discussion on ClubHouse on how to deal with haters. There were lots of comments like “ignore them; it’s just their stuff, they’re just jealous” etc etc. To me the point that was missed is this: There’s no such thing as ‘a hater’. There are just people giving expression to their… Read More No such thing as a hater
A guide to Catalytic Conversations
Can you change your relationships just by changing the way you listen? ABSOLUTELY! Disconnected and frustrated with not being able to get through to spouses, children, parents and employees are the most consistent themes I hear from clients. It doesn’t have to be this way. There’s a simple solution One skill can change everything If… Read More How to get through to (almost) anyone
He resolved a strike in the 11th hour and saved his company millions. Here’s how: “As CEO of a logistics company, I very seldom engaged directly with our work force. The operating environment in South Africa is generally very hostile and we use experienced human resource practitioners who engage on behalf of the company. An… Read More The Financial Value of Listening
Yet another high school shooting….and again the question: ‘what is wrong with those kids!?’ I think the answer is complex and multi-factored. From nutritional deficiencies, surging hormones, lack of exercise, the influence of social media and our personality driven society in which self-esteem is linked to fame …or notoriety… these are just some of the… Read More The lost art of Conversation and school shootings ….a connection?
He told me his wife got mean and did vengeful things, like spewing bitter and resentful posts on FB, giving voice to her disdain and hatred of men who cheated on their wives, letting their friends know he was one of them. He told me he wanted to be kind. So, he told me, he… Read More When you can’t say anything nice ……say this
“Through many dangers, toils and snares I have already come Tis grace that brought me safe thus far And Grace will lead me home” – Amazing Grace Growing up in Africa, where conflict and strife between people were impossible to avoid, I wondered: what will it take for us to see our shared humanity, break… Read More Amazing Grace
I recently had a conversation with a salesperson …. sort of. She was very excited about what she was offering. Her product sounded great. It had all sorts of components that I knew I could benefit from. But, I didn’t buy it. Why? Even though I could tell the value of the product I didn’t… Read More No listen – no sell
A conversation with Wendy Yates, founder of Well, Fit Human, on adaptability and resilience in times of challenge. In addition to talking about my sailing to the Caribbean to swim with dolphins 🐬, I shared some ideas on adaptability, how to know what you authentically want, the relationship between fear of the future and unresolved… Read More From stressed to blessed
We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worthy of listening to, worthy of our trust and sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” e.e cummings Hello! Thank you so much… Read More Mindful Listening for Catalytic Conversations
Could the current Covid19 crisis be playing a role in preparing us for an increasingly computerized, AI run world?“ Artificial Intelligence (AI) is here and its applications are growing. Jobs currently being done by people will be done by bots. This begs the questions: What will we do then? How will we make our livings?… Read More Evolution, Covid and AI
Anger is not the problem; One’s beliefs about the cause of anger are the problem. Ms Ignorant believes: YOU are making me angry. YOU are the problem. Then she attacks. YOU need to change, go away or die! Ms Wisdom knows: I am the cause of my anger. She asks: What is this saying about… Read More Anger is not the problem
Communicate to Connect and Grow – 4 Steps (to download the PDF click here) The greatest gift we can give another person is our attention. When we listen in a way that makes them feel seen and heard, understood and appreciated, something inside them begins to heal. Something inside them begins to feel worthy. Something… Read More Catalytic Conversations Guide
All recordings and handouts will be posted on this page. The page is ‘secret’ – it can only be accessed via the link that you have. It is not publicly displayed on my site. Session 1 Please skip the first minute or so of the recording. Handout: Catalytic Conversations Module 2 Boundaries Over the next… Read More CC Boundaries
Hi Each week the recording will be uploaded here. I will also do my best to transcribe some of what we talked about. Handouts will be available here as well. The page is private so only you will have access to this material. Please honor confidentiality and don’t share the recording with anyone not in… Read More Cat Convos Pilot Program
Listening and speaking in ways that make others feel seen and heard, understood and appreciated is a skill. It takes practice. Please join me for a 6-week experience of engraining the 4-part structure of a Catalytic Conversation. In a naturally flowing catalytic conversation there is a rhythm, a back and forth of information that… Read More Catalytic Convos – Diving In
Catalytic Conversations – the kind that move everyone forward – are driven by great listeners. These listeners – Catalytic Listeners – possess both internal, integrated emotional maturity AND external communication skills. This one-day intensive elevates both. It is for thoughtful adults who want to be the best leaders, parents, teachers and partners they can be.… Read More Catalytic Listener Intensive
“All my failures can be traced to my silence.” These words, in a post by Danielle LaPorte, triggered a montage of silence-induced-failure memories. My first marriage: how many times had I simply shut up while he ranted? The job I was fired from: how many nights had I secretly cried because I felt overwhelmed but… Read More My Failures, My Silence
“Jolina is an oracle of sorts. She is a healer, not of brokenness but from an optimization standpoint….healing so that you’re equipped to be fully you.” Dr David Martin For the past 20 years or so, Jolina has been guiding clients to greater levels of Self-awareness and personal integration, in order to heal themselves and and… Read More Meet Jolina
Welcome to this complimentary worksheet on how to Clarify Your Values. Click here to download the pdf version: What makes you YOU_ Your life is an expression of your Values Systems. The word ‘Values’ gets bandied about a lot, but in ways that are often not particularly predictive of behavior. When asked what our values are,… Read More Clarify Your Values
Dear Michael It occurs to me that I have never written you a father/son type letter and maybe I should. I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s the imminent prospect of painting the high facia boards and falling off the roof… Or maybe it’s an urge to write down my own philosophy of life since we… Read More Dad’s letter to my brother
Thank you! Please use the ‘installment’ button for the pay in full option, or the 3 payment option. The Foundations Amount at checkout $497.00 USD Foundations 3 payments Number of payments 3 Start payments At checkout Due* Amount At checkout $190.00 USD Every 4 weeks (x 2) $190.00 USD Total $570.00 USD * We calculate… Read More Foundations – Registration
Zoom link: https://zoom.us/j/5320714082 Phone: +1 646 876 9923 or +1 669 900 6833 or +1 408 638 0968 – Meeting ID: 532 071 4082 International numbers available here MATERIALS and RECORDINGS Principle 1: The Nature of Your Reality (Oct 24, 2017) Video Recording Audio Only Material (please click the image to download) Optical Illusions (please click the… Read More Foundations Oct 2017 recordings and material
The Foundations: 5 Principles and Practices for Living, Loving and Leading Well The Dalai Lama said: “The world will be saved by the Western woman” To that I want to add: “…and the men who value them”. In these chaotic times we are being called to pay attention to how we are doing relationships. Not just romantic… Read More Foundations RSE2017
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An African teaching says we all have two minds: the Mother Mind and the Warrior Mind. The Warrior Mind thinks linearly. The Mother minds thinks this side, then that side, upwards and downwards. In other words, the Mother Mind thinks holistically. Many of us women are Mother Mind dominant. This means we see things from… Read More Reining in the Mother Mind
I heard your requests for more time to integrate these principles, so the next program will be 12 weeks. One week we’ll have an online class (live), the following week will be Q & A (live). Times will be staggered to accommodate participants around the world. All sessions will be recorded for you to download… Read More Foundations – Refresher
Upcoming Foundations Program Dates TBD Physics, Physiology and Axiology combine to inform relationships in ways that popular psychology cannot. This matters because so much of one’s happiness and success depends on one’s relationships. The Foundations is an multi-week online program that dives into 5 Principles and Practices for Living, Loving and Leading Well The… Read More The Foundations
What makes conflict scary is the mistaken belief that the other person – that thing out there – is the source of your anger. Have you ever been blamed for making someone angry? Have you been attacked, criticized, tongue-lashed or dumped …for ‘making’ someone feel something they didn’t like? Were you really responsible for their… Read More Why conflict is scary
The Hidden Function in Dysfunction We tend to view illnesses as dysfunctions that cause us pain and should, therefore, be gotten rid of as quickly as possible. But what if their real function is not to cause pain but to help us avoid pain? What if they are strategies for bypassing or managing deeper pains… Read More On Healing: Functional Dysfunctions?
If I had a daughter I’d want her to know she is valuable she is good she is likeable she deserves to be happy she can have what she wants. I’d want her to believe that there are ways to get what she desires, to have experiences that uplift her. Her happiness matters to me.… Read More If I had a daughter